How Hugmore works

From sending interest to a second date and beyond. Here's how Hugmore keeps things moving and the ways you can meet.

Two men laughing across the table at a café

We don't stop at the match. We help it go somewhere.

Not just finding someone, but the messages, the first date and the next one too. Hugmore is with you for every step after you meet.

InterestedIt takes just a tap to send interest. With a set number of sends each day, every interest you receive was chosen with care—it means something.

MatchYou each send one message within 72 hours, so matches don't just sit there.

MessagesEither person can send the first message, making it easier to say hello. This helps reduce the number of conversations that end before they begin.

You both want to dateHe only finds out if you both tap it, so you can ask him out without worrying about getting turned down.

DateSave the day you picked, and we'll remind you the night before. No more plans that quietly fall through.

Want to date againNo more wondering if you were the only one who had fun. Ask for date two with confidence, and let one date turn into something real.

1You match

Matches last 72 hours. Send one message each to keep it going.

Once you match, you both need to send at least one message within 72 hours, or the match ends automatically. So no more silent matches, and you've got a reason to send that first message.

The chat right after a match, showing 72 hours left before it ends

2You start talking

Want a date? Just tap the heart.

Tapping the heart doesn't tell him anything. Only when you both tap it will you know you both want to date. You can show you're interested without worrying about being turned down.

The screen showing you both want to date

3You pick a day

Picked a day? Save it as your date day.

Save the date and time you agreed on in your chat, and we'll remind you at 8:00 PM the day before. No more plans that quietly fall through.

4You meet

Want to see him again? Tap the heart again.

After you meet, the heart means “Want to date again.” Only when you both tap it do we let you know: “You both want another date.” No more wondering if you're the only one who wants to see him again. Next stop, date two.

After your date, you'll also see a card that says, “Why not send a thank-you message?”

The screen after you meet, showing you both want another date

Three ways to find him.

Guys near you. Guys who share your values. Date invites. Pick how you search, depending on your mood that day.

All searches take place in two rooms, each organized around a body type you're interested in. People with that body type and people who like it share a room, so two people who are each other's type won't miss one another.

Hug RoomA room for stocky, chubby and big guys — and the guys who love them

More RoomA room for slim, average and muscular guys — and the guys who love them

You pick one when you sign up. With Hugmore Plus, you can switch between both rooms.

01Nearby

Find guys near you, wherever you are.

See guys in your room who are nearby, in a photo grid sorted by distance. Find your type fast, right where you are. You can also browse guys around any spot you pick on the map, for free.

Filter by height, weight, age, position and more.

02Hugmore Match

Guys who share your values, every day at noon.

Every day at noon, Hugmore picks guys whose Real Values match yours. Even if he's not nearby, you can meet someone who wants the same kind of relationship.

Real Values are 12 either-or questions you answer when you sign up, about the things couples tend to clash over once they're together. Mark the values that matter most to you with 3 stars. Your answers are never shown to anyone.

How fast to take things
Your approach to love
Together time vs. me time
When you argue
Friends and family
The future

Once you match, you'll see which values you share (1 for free, up to 5 with Hugmore Plus). With Hugmore Plus, profiles also show your Real Values match as a bar and a word, plus how rare it is, like “1 in 4,700 pairs.”

03Date Plan

Got a free day? Invite someone on a date.

Date Plan is a date invite. Pick a free day, post “Here's the date I want to go on,” and find a guy to go with you. See an invite you like? Send an “I'm in.”

The day and the plan are already set, so the chat jumps straight to “What time works?” It's easy whether you're asking or answering. Posting and sending “I'm in” are both free, and you can have one plan up at a time.